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  A Positive Way to Limit Electronics with Kids What is your child interested in? What does he think about? Where does she spend her money? What do your kids like to do? Jesus said, “Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also” (Matthew 6:21). Most of the time the activities our children choose indicate what they treasure. Because the heart and behavior are closely linked, parents can look for things their kids can do that will encourage…

  How to Connect with Your Child’s Heart Jesus said, “out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks” (Matthew 12:34). Parents can use this principle to gain some understanding and insight into a child’s heart. Listening becomes key. It’s surprising how many times we ask kids why they don’t talk to their parents and hear the answer, “Because they don’t listen to me.” Click here to read more.

How to Build Self Control in Kids Who are Impulsive You could hear the tension in Lisa’s voice, “Living with a child who is impulsive is just down right frustrating!” Maybe you can relate to that statement. Every time you turn around your child is into some kind of trouble or is annoying someone. Kids who lack self control need training and lots of it. Here’s an idea that will help you in the midst of this kind of challenging…

  Consistency is Overrated! “That is the most freeing statement I’ve heard in a long time.” That’s what one mom said when we freed her from the guilt she experienced because she couldn’t always be consistent. She continued, “It makes so much sense now. Thank you.” Here’s what we told her. If you’re doing simple behavior modification then consistency is essential. Giving the reward or punishment every time you see the behavior will reinforce change. But if you’re using a…

  Understanding Tasks, Problems, and Conflict One way to avoid emotional outbursts with our children is to understand the difference between tasks, problems, and conflict. Tasks are the normal things parents do each day. You get kids out of bed, make sure they’re dressed, provide breakfast, check that they have all the things they’ll need for the day, and get out the door. Then you’ll stop by the drug store to pick up the prescription and drop by the library…

What Can a Child’s Emotions Tell You? Since the heart is where decisions are formed, commitments made, and beliefs established, your child’s emotions become an opportunity for parenting. Look for ways to use your children’s emotions to help you understand their hearts. Don’t Be Afraid of Emotions Many parents are afraid of their children’s emotions and try to minimize them. It’s true that one parental responsibility is to help our children manage their feelings effectively. But, contrary to popular belief,…

  Honor is Like Giving a Gift When was the last time you received a surprise? Don’t just think about the big surprises like a birthday gift, but think of the little ones, like an unexpected thank you or an encouraging word from someone you appreciate. It’s those little surprises in life that give a real lift to our days. Honor does the same thing. It gives more than what’s expected. It adds energy to relationships and the result is…

When Kids Don’t Listen and Follow Instructions Brandon is nine years old. When his mom gives him an instruction he often turns it into a discussion. He asks why he has to do it and offers ideas about why the task isn’t important anyway. Mom finds herself explaining, arguing, and nagging. Jenny is thirteen years old and has a similar problem when her parents tell her that she can’t go to the party on Friday night, or can’t go to…